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What is a Parent's Role in the Recruiting Process?

Learn Ways to Help Your Child Find Their Best Fit.

For college-bound student athletes, the recruiting process can be confusing, stressful, and extremely time consuming. Most young people who face this challenging time in their life will look to their parents for sound advice and direction. So what exactly should parents do and not do throughout this complex process?


  • Encourage your child to properly research colleges and golf programs early in the recruiting process.
  • Be realistic (academically, athletically, and socially) when helping your child target potential colleges to attend.
  • Help your child prepare for a successful collegiate career by reflecting on your college experiences.
  • Speak with parents of children currently attending college to learn more about their respective school and coach.
  • Prepare a list of questions for your child to ask college coaches during campus visits (See Previous Article on this Topic).
  • Plan as many unofficial visits as possible during your child’s sophomore and junior years in order to learn more about college campuses.
  • Keep your child focused on academic excellence throughout high school—including SAT and ACT prep classes.
  • Remain positive and optimistic throughout the entire recruiting process, constantly reminding your child that you will support their final decision regardless of where they select to attend college.


  • When meeting with a coach, refrain from answering questions for your child—let them speak for themselves.
  • Resist the temptation to tell your child where they should attend college and play golf without asking their opinion.
  • College questionnaires should be completed by the student athletes, not the parents.
  • When coaches call your home, they are most interested in speaking with your child — stay off the call unless you are asked to listen in.
  • During junior golf tournaments (and especially in the presence of college coaches), refrain from showing excessive emotion after each shot your child plays - remain as calm as possible.
  • Pressuring your child to play better in order to get recruited is unhealthy and in many cases, can be counter productive.
  • Parental calls and/or emails to college coaches should be kept to a minimum during the recruiting process.
  • Overstating your child’s true athletic ability can result in a poor long-term decision and a bad college fit— for both your child and the coach.

Young people need their parents to provide guidance and support at many times during their life, including the college recruiting process. This is generally a stressful time for both the child and the parent as change is on the horizon. Throughout this process, parents need to encourage their children to: (a) think and speak for themselves, (b) do as much research as possible, and (c) ultimately make a personal decision that they are comfortable with.

Coaches are generally hesitant to recruit players whose parents are too involved. Make sure you are not perceived as one of these parents.

Coach Brooks
Red Numbers Golf®

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